Monday, September 18, 2006

Resolution

Wes has not said he was idiot. Or even that he shouldn't have done what he did. What he did do was apologize for what he did, and stated that because he didn't want to upset me, he wouldn't do it again. Now, I would like him to understand and agree with me, but actions are more important. Besides, keeping an e-mail argument alive is hard. And I don't want to be mad at him for the next week and a half until he gets home. Even if he were here, if he agrees to do what I ask, does it really matter if he agrees with why? This is definitely a lesson learned with age and time, as even a few years ago, I would have fought this to the death. But now, what does it matter: he's still doing what I want him to. And, since he was talking about trust anyway, I brought up the fact that I find it disrespectful that he still has all his ex-girlfriend's phone numbers programmed into his phone (we're talking a couple dozen: not one or two). He deleted them all for me. I explained that it wasn't that I thought he was going to cheat with them, but that I kind of felt like he was reminding me that he had things on the back burner in case things went bad with us. We will still have a long, in-depth conversation about appropriate behavior before he leaves for his 6 months over seas, but I don't think my husband will ever do something that stupid again.

4 comments:

minnie said...

it sounds like things are working out and calming down. for that i'm happy for you. he does love you. that much is obvious.
and from what i hear, make up sex is the best! lol

Bart's Camille said...

That was a very hard thing for me to learn too but you are absolutely right. You can't make a person agree with you. I'm proud of you. Love ya!

Queen of Ass said...

I'm just now catching up on this, but I'm glad you two have laid out your feelings on the subject without holding back. Email fights can sometimes work out better - gives you more time to say what you want to say instead of retorting in anger.

Wishing you both the best, Sugar...

Tiffany said...

Thank goodness things are resolved.