Thursday, July 27, 2006

I have to ask.

Ok, I wasn't going to write about this, but it's driving me crazy and I need some opinions. It has to do with Andrea. You remember her, right? The girl who claimed I was her best friend but then became a total bitch when I married Wes. Yeah, her. Anyway, since I've moved to VA I haven't heard from her. At all. Now, all my other friends have either called, e-mailed, or left me sweet messages in my comments (or even in their blogs). Not Andrea. In fact, I called her once and after she heard that Wes and I were actually getting along very well, the conversation was pretty much over. I did mail her a thank-you for the very generic wedding gift she gave us, but I did that 2 days ago (I wasn't really feeling very thankful). Then, last night, guess who called and who obviously isn't aware that there's a time difference. So I didn't answer (because the phone was downstairs and I didn't get to it in time). She also left a message that went something like this: this is Andrea, you know your friend you haven't called in a long time. Since I haven't heard from you I thought I should call. Here's my phone number since you've obviously forgotten it (yes, that really was pretty much what she said). All in a very monotone, I don't care if I ever hear from you again voice. Now, in all honesty, I don't want to call her. I get sick to my stomach thinking about talking to her. Therefore, I don't think I should. That's just stress I don't really need in my life right now. Wes thinks I should call her and at least tell her why I don't want to be her friend. Opinions? Just let it go or let her know? Which should I do?

6 comments:

Bart's Camille said...

Call her and tell her that phones work both ways and that, given the fact that you were the one going through a major life transition you expected your friends to be there to support you and that her absence in that effort was very apparent. Tell her that you weren't surprised really considering that your ranking fell somewhat behind that of a co-worker, whose wedding locale happened to be, what?, "cooler" than Virginia Beach. Tell her that friendship is reciprocal and that you feel that the only thing reciprocal about her is that she reciprocates her own interests over and over and over again.... or just tell her to bite you... whichever is easiest.

I would be glad for you if you could work it out but I do feel that she owes you some RESPECT.

Talk to you later,
Camille

Queen of Ass said...

I think calling her and telling her that your friendship isn't going to work out would be good. At least it would give you both closure.

nadia said...

honestly, it doesn't sound like she deserves much of an explanation, but i tihnk YOU'D feel better if you gave her one -- a bit of closure, just like in a dating situation. i was thinking, though, that maybe a call would be mega-stressful, and she might whine and bitch and be all "but stacy you have WRONGED ME!" which led me to conclude that perhaps you should write her a letter, cutting that bitch off pride and prejudice style: "Excuse me, but it quite pains me to imagine a further continuation of our intercourse. Simply put, you make me ill. Ta ta!"

Bart's Camille said...

oooooh.... i like nadia's style. classy, classy, classy. yeah, do that one!! dare ya.

Clarity25 said...

If the thought of calling her makes you sick to your stomach, then maybe you should wait until you feel more comfortable. She doesn't need an explanation right now and you have to do what is right for you. Don't feel forced into anything, but do what your heart tells you. It's a tricky situation.

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