Wednesday, June 03, 2009

Snip or not to snip

Wes doesn't want anymore kids. Which I understand. He has three. He wants to get snipped. I don't think I want anymore kids either, so what's the problem. I really don't know. I love the little Navy Bean so much, and if we were younger and could wait 4 or 5 years in between kids, I would probably want more. But we're already 35. His kids are 11 and 8. And I like sleep. I want to have space in between kids though. I want to be able to enjoy my time with the Navy Bean. She's in such a fun stage right now (when she's not teething). She can interact with you. You can see the light bulbs going off in her head, often one right after another. She is trying to figure stuff out. She's getting a sense of humor. Her personality is emerging. I don't want to have to put her on hold while I take care of another baby. I don't want her to have to share me. I want to spoil her. I don't really want another kid.

But I'm terrified something will happen. The Navy Bean could never be replaced. I wouldn't even want to try. But after becoming a mom, I don't know that I could stop being a mom. I don't even know if any of this makes any sense. I told Wes we should wait until she's two. It seems silly though, to wait, when I know I don't want another one. Suggestions on why him getting snipped freaks me out?


Beth said...

I have no insight into why Wes getting snipped freaks you out, but I do have a suggestion. You could get an IUD. IUDs have a 99% success rate ( but, unlike surgery, it's completely reversible by just having it removed. That would give you time to think more about it and maybe get comfortable with the permanant nature of the snip, without having to worry about getting preggers again.

I have an IUD and I love it. It hurt like a mofo to have it inserted, but you've given birth so I'm sure that's much worse!

Sandi said...

It would freak me out too, in a way. In fact, David suggested the same thing, but it made more sense to me to get myself spayed since I was already going to be cut open for them to be born. HOWEVER, when it was just Josh, I would have NEVER done it. For many of the same reasons you just described. Now? I'm totally fine. Maybe it has to do with having an only.